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[escardos]

Name: anon (flat escardos)
Date: 5/10
Format: text

Hello! Quick question for the masses: what do you do if there's someone that your Bonded doesn't like? And that someone also also dislikes your Bonded?

They're both very close to me, so it's a difficult situation. Any help would be appreciated! Thank you!

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[video, he lounging with the cat on the couch again]

[gilgamess]

Is it not obvious?

You must decree that they are to love one another. Were it me, I would decree that they should love me first. Their love for one another follows from my radiance.

For others, though it is brutish, force may be required.

still anon, though boy he almost broke it to coo at the kitty

[escardos]

No, I don't think that's possible.

Voice;

[fiddlestick]

Do you know why they don't like each other?

text

[escardos]

To keep it simple, person A believes my Bonded to not be good for me.

Or something like that.

the siren song of feline temptation

[gilgamess]

[ Butter Cake definitely likes to climb up Gilgamesh's chest -- he has to keep him down and away from his face, actually. and Hakuno and Enkidu are probably at the flower shop or doing some Legitimate business during the AUO-network-browsing hour. bored kings with distracting shiny social outlets, never a good end. ]

Oh? Do you lack sufficient strength or charisma to change others' opinions?

If so, that is most unfortunate. It raises the possibility you may have to take their views into consideration in what you do next.

[fiddlestick]

[Crap, it's one of those complication situations isn't it?]

Why do they believe that?

[escardos]

That would be difficult to explain.

I guess it goes against the expectations placed on us? Person A's and mine.

But I don't like those expectations. And they don't make sense to follow if I am here in Aefenglom.

[escardos]

But what if I don't want to take Person A's views into consideration?

I still have strength over them, I believe.

[fiddlestick]

[Flat can't see it, but Elliot is making a face at that word. Expectations are the worse]

Ngh...one of those situations huh?

What would be the worst that could happen if those expectations aren't followed?

[gilgamess]

Does "Person A" refer to this Bonded of yours or to the other close person whom that Bonded shares mutual dislike with?

[ well... this only seems to get more and more perplexing. ]

Moreover, you have not indicated anything about the source of their dislike for one another.

text; (un: aragaki)

[hoboagogo]

tell them to grow the hell up.

they can either deal and act normal for you, or they can fuck off when the other's around.

text;

[zewu_jun]

Would it be possible for your Bonded and the other person to come to terms if they had some sort of formal agreement? Something you or your Bonded could do to help remove part of the distaste between them?

text | un: voidgear

[darkcharge]

Tell them to get over it. It's your choice not theirs.

[escardos]

My Bonded is my Bonded and Person A refers to the person that they dislike.

Person A sees him as a threat. Bonded sees them as that as well. And here I am in the middle.

Re: text; (un: aragaki)

[escardos]

Who needs to grow up? My Bonded or Person A? Both?

But I don't think Person A would be very good at acting "normal".

[escardos]

To be frank, I am not sure.

As far as I know, I have already fulfilled mine. Without even knowing. But Person A and I are something like

[ there's a long pause there, as he tries to figure out how to explain it. ]

Really close partners? So anything I do will probably have an effect on Person A as well.

It's very complicated.

[escardos]

A formal agreement?

Explain.

[escardos]

That usually works.

But I was looking for a more permanent solution?

[gilgamess]

Hm, and I suppose neither of them is the sort of person you would wish to threaten?

[ just telling them to fall in line and plain bullying seems like a good way to resolve an interpersonal conflict.

but, failing that -- ]

Perhaps it would do to understand why each feels threatened. Are their reactions sensible to your estimation, or do you believe each to be presumptive in these threatened feelings?

Whatever you should do next will follow from your answer to that question.

[darkcharge]

Isn't that also a permanent solution to the problem? Either they respect you or they don't.

text | un:wwxwashere

[weiward]

that's easy. you tie them together and refuse to set them free until they agree to get along.

[escardos]

It's not about respect.

I don't think it's about respect, at least.

My Bonded wants what's best for me. Person A wants to accomplish something that's also supposed to be the best for us. Us being Person A and I.

[escardos]

I'm...unsure as to how that would go. I don't think there's rope strong enough for my Bonded. And Person A would most likely see that as a nuisance.

[escardos]

My Bonded wants what's best for me. Person A wants to accomplish something that's also supposed to be the best for us. Us being Person A and I.

What they consider to be the "best" is not the same.

In fact, they're polar opposites.

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[oathkeeper]

You could try to do your best to get them to get along? There's gotta be something they have in common that they could see eye to eye on? If they're both really close to you they should at least try to get over the bad, right?