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[darkestbefore]

Name: Yona
Date: 6/1
Format: Text

[ Considering how long she's been here now and how... enthusiastic her Coven mentors have been about her finding a Bond, Yona's finally worked up the courage to try and use this strange device for herself and ask for some advice. ]

How did those of you who have made Bonds know that your partner was right for you? Was it just something casual and easy? Was it something deeper than that? Did you have a hard time finding someone when you first arrived?

[ Was that too intrusive? Insecure? She hopes not... ]

And those of you who haven't yet... what is it you're looking for?

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[darkestbefore]

[ Hmm, that's a very different answer than many of the others she'd received so far. ]

It sounds as if you've not had a very pleasant experience with this.

[sneaksweet]

No.

We knew each other for about a week. He's a witch and I'm not, so it just seemed to make sense. So far, we haven't had any problems.

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[darkestbefore]

[ His words mean a lot and she gives them a moment of consideration before typing back a reply. ]

What happens if a bond doesn't work out?

[usurpers]

Or you annul it together, [ if you think it isn't working out, ] or it breaks. I wouldn't let it get to the latter if you could help it.

[darkestbefore]

[ She's caught off guard by his offer, but touched as well. ]

Why, Archer! Thank you! But you have bonds already, don't you? SHouldn't you check with them before making such an offer? Although I confess, I'm not entirely certain how this works...

[darkestbefore]

Oh, my! That is very quick! I'm glad it's worked out for you so well, though!

[darkestbefore]

No, that doesn't sound very pleasant at all.

I fear I may be approaching the point of necessity, but that doesn't exactly make diving into this any easier, not when I still feel so new to everything.

But I think you for your advice. It helps, hearing how others did it.

[thisisamazing]

it doesn't have to be someone you'd jump in front of a fireball for, just someone you trust enough to talk about things with. that's the most important part, i think. if you can't talk honestly to a person about more sensitive topics, you probably won't be comfortable sharing through a bond.

you said everything is still new, how long have you been here?

[usurpers]

Have you thought about familiars?

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[peacewithouttyranny]

Someone I could trust. That's all I'm looking for.

[A simple requirement, and yet it's difficult to achieve. The problem with trust issue...]

[darkestbefore]

Ahh, I'm... I'm just approaching my third month, so the Coven's hints have been getting a little more pointed of late. It sounds longer than it feels, though. I'm still trying to wrap my head around having magic, let alone finding someone to help balance my use of it.

[sneaksweet]

We aren't really the overthinking types, I guess.

Don't feel like you need to rush into it.

[darkestbefore]

Yes, actually. And with Ao here with me, I think I may try that? But I know it's only a temporary measure.

[darkestbefore]

That can be a hard thing to find, in so short a span of time, can't it?

[ She understands all too well. ]

[darkestbefore]

But I thought it was dangerous if you let it go too long?

[sneaksweet]

Too long is like 3 months. That's a decent amount of time.

If you're a witch, you can also take a familiar to give you more time to look.

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[prophexy]

Nay, 'tis no simple thing to ask. And yet, those of us who are slow to trust others are not granted the luxury of time to grow comfortable with the weight of the question.

These Bonds need not be an eternal commitment, and thou art not restricted to one alone. As time doth wear on, the risk of reaching out to another becomes less dire than the risk inherent in failing to do so; what thou shalt make of the connection once it is forged is then a decision to be shared between thee and thy partner. The option doth ever remain to annul a Bond which hath served its purpose for both parties.

[usurpers]

At least it gives you more time.

Ao?

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[long_live_the_queen]

I didn't.

I asked her for help, and forgot to let go.

[darkestbefore]

[ She laughs sheepishly because she's now approaching three months... and it doesn't feel nearly long enough yet.

...Then again, she become a little more cautious in trusting too easily, long before arriving here. ]

Yes I've heard that's an option. I'm certainly considering it.

[ ...Maybe she really has been overthinking this? ]

[peacewithouttyranny]

It can be. I'm approaching my third month, and that is not a long enough time to find someone.

Perhaps I am overthinking this, but it feels like this is something very intimate to do, even when it is necessary for our survival. I can do something like a bond connection back home, and I only let those who were close to me in it.

[darkestbefore]

Ah! She's a companion from home, she was with me when I fell through the mirror. I suppose, as comparisons go, she;d already be a familiar - just without the magic spell that makes her so.

[usurpers]

An animal?

[sneaksweet]

Probably a good idea if you don't have anyone in mind.

If you're having trouble looking for people I don't think I have very useful advice.

[It was so easy for him and his bonded because neither of them tend to overthink these sorts of things. "Look for somebody who doesn't think" is not a good piece of advice.]

[darkestbefore]

I'm also approaching my third month, so I know what you mean.

I don't think it's overthinking it? But I perhaps have been overthinking it as well, so maybe I'm not the one to be saying something like that. Some of the others didn't seem to have much trouble trusting easily to form a bond but...

...I also have a more difficult time with something like that.