text, un: dawnwitch

[darkestbefore]

Name: Yona
Date: 6/1
Format: Text

[ Considering how long she's been here now and how... enthusiastic her Coven mentors have been about her finding a Bond, Yona's finally worked up the courage to try and use this strange device for herself and ask for some advice. ]

How did those of you who have made Bonds know that your partner was right for you? Was it just something casual and easy? Was it something deeper than that? Did you have a hard time finding someone when you first arrived?

[ Was that too intrusive? Insecure? She hopes not... ]

And those of you who haven't yet... what is it you're looking for?

Comments

text/ un: Caster

[futhark]

Welcome on the "how do I even Bond" boat.

text; un: hiccup

[thisisamazing]

i guess i didn't know at first. me and my partner, we took a leap of faith sort of. i was feeling the effects of going without and he was my best friend here and

it turned out that he was the right one all along.

sometimes you just have to jump in and see what happens because it might surprise you.

[darkestbefore]

We have a boat?

[futhark]

We do, it's pretty stylish! It sails towards the bright future and you disembark once you find your Bondmate.

[darkestbefore]

That sounds wonderful. And what I'd sort of expected a bond should be, so I'm so happy you found the right Bond. I think that's special.

[ Even if it makes her a little wistful. ]

I don't think I'm afraid to jump... I'm just not sure in which direction.

[darkestbefore]

...Then I very much hope I don't end up seasick.

text, un: momo-chan~♥

[yesdoubt]

I ended up doing it because someone needed me to (・・。)ゞ
I don't think it has to be more complicated than something like that~~
Like obviously don't go out and bond with someone you can't stand, but I feel like a lot of people end up overthinking it...
And then they come close enough to the wire that they have to make a rush decision anyway ( ´△｀)

[Clearly he in no way tried to avoid bonding prior to now and none of this advice is ragingly hypocritical.]

[thisisamazing]

it was pretty special to realize. i'm lucky to have him. i know it isn't so easy for others sometimes.

that can be difficult. is there anyone you're already close to here?

[darkestbefore]

[ Since she knows none of that, you come out of this looking amazingly altruistic. ]

Your Bondmate must be very lucky indeed, then.

I'm not trying to overcomplicate it, or overthink it. [ She thinks? But she does tend to overthink things a lot... ] It just feels a little strange, when everyone is still so new and unknown to me here. I don't want to rush anything but...

...it still feels rushed when everything and everyone is so new and strange.

[darkestbefore]

I'm not sure. I mean, I've made some acquaintances here and people have been very kind and helpful. But with everything so new and strange still, I'm not sure I've even had the chance to become truly 'close' to anyone?

[ When do you cross over a line into 'close friends' anyway? She's not got a lot of experience at that. Surviving life and death situations back home had surely been a much deeper way to bond her to people rather than this casual sort of searching. Not that she recommends that in general. ]

[yesdoubt]

Maybe you don't mean to, but if you're looking for opinions and stories, then you are putting a lot of thought into it, right (・・？)
So that could make you hesitate

That makes sense! This is a big change for a lot of people...
But at the same time, it means we're all a little bit rushed _(┐「ε:)_
So we're all in the same boat, and even if you ask someone you've only just started to get to know or get comfortable with, I'm sure they'll understand~~!
It's best to think about it in a short term way and not compared to relationships you had a ton of time to develop ╭( ･ㅂ･)و

[futhark]

Yeah, that's a risk. But it's a shallow waters cruise, the shore is way closer than it looks.

Now for the real answer. I didn't know if that was a good idea or not, I just went with it. In fact it seemed crazy at the time, but to be honest, I often did such reckless leaps and they always provided exciting results. This one fits the pattern. I'm Bonded to two amazing people and wouldn't have it another way.

[darkestbefore]

[ She appreciates the encouragement, as crooked as it is. ]

So you gambled and came out with good fortune?

[darkestbefore]

It's difficult to think of something like a bond such as this in the short-term, however. Isn't that the opposite of what a bond is meant to be?

text; un: Archer

[boneofsword]

It took me some time to find the right person. Someone whom I can trust and let close. At first it wasn't easy, but it was worth it.

[darkestbefore]

[ She smiles when she sees his text, because she always enjoys discussing such things with him. ]

It feels like time might be the one thing I'm short on, if the urgings of the Coven are anything to go by.

[yesdoubt]

That's not what I mean (。^_・)ノ
I mean more like...
Say you've known someone for years back home, and you're super close to them~~
It's natural you'd hope for that kind of closeness if you're bonding with someone, right?
But how well did you know that person only a few weeks or months after you met them?
Since you can only get to know someone so well in that time, focus on the things you can know in the short-term (⌒▽⌒)☆
Do you get on? Are they someone you want to support? That sort of stuff~

un: leslie

[foundfamilies]

When you ask it like that, I don’t know if I know what I’m looking for. I don’t want to bother anyone with my own problems or emotions, but there isn’t going to be something as convenient as a trustworthy person who wouldn’t be affected by a Bond.

Oh, but you’re a witch, right? [what with the username] There is a ritual to make something like a bond with a familiar. Even if it doesn’t do as much as a real Bond, it can help stave off the worst effects of being without one for a while, if you need more time.

Text | un: juzahyodo

[sneaksweet]

It was a casual thing for us. It helped that we got along well.

[Now that he thinks about it... he's way less likely to bond with anybody from home. They've all got secrets, as minor as they are. With his bond it just feels... like a familiar kind of brotherly easiness.]

text;

[unsundered]

[Though he's feeling more bored than particularly helpful, this is a topic Emet-Selch has experience with.]

You don't.

That is to say, a Bond that seems congenial may turn out to be anything but... while a troublesome one may end up more acceptable than expected. Or, it might appear stable and remain as such- I've experienced all of these possibilities. No doubt others exist.

'Tis an unfortunate aspect of life here, that something so intimate is made a matter of survival- but so it goes. How difficult it becomes depends on what your own requirements are, and how much you're willing to accept.

un: krüeger

[usurpers]

We didn't really know. My current one was more out of necessity, but we mostly got along enough to try it.

We have more differences than similarities, but it's worked out the same way some Bonds don't. You can't know for sure until you do it.

[darkestbefore]

I think I see what you mean. Find someone you can get along with and let the bond grow naturally from that, if it will do so?

[darkestbefore]

I've heard mention of the familiar spell, and that is something I wish to try! But from what I understand, that's only a temporary thing to stave off a bond.

...But it does buy me more time, I suppose. And I know how you feel. It's hard to guess if those you might be considering for a bond feel the same way about you back, isn't it?

[boneofsword]

Three months is how long it took.

[She reminds him of someone he still holds dear.]

If you need a Bond I'll be honored to be able to help

[darkestbefore]

Did you know each other very well when you decided to make a bond?