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Can't believe this is gonna be my first post on here, awkwaaard lol.
This place is full of romantics. I've met a bunch of Witches and Monsters who're getting together in pairs, three-of-a-kinds, and some are even going for full houses. I'm in a bit of a pickle and I'd like some advice on the problem, since everyone's probably way better at figuring this stuff out than me. And, actually, it's more like a couple of problems? Because I really, really like two separate people.
I know this is a story as old as time and if I don't be careful I could make a huge mess of everything, but I genuinely don't know what to do with myself. "You can't have your cake and eat it, too," is a really relevant expression to use here, I feel, and overall I've got so little experience asking one person out let alone multiple. Both of them are unique and couldn't be more different, which is probably what's making the decision on who to try for so difficult. They're both funny and attractive, but one's super smart, affectionate, and dynamic, while the other's strong, willful, and considerate.
What are your thoughts? Am I overthinking it, or being too callous? Having crushes on your friends is normal, but how about moving forward with both of them? Sorry if this is weird, or no one actually gives a shit. I do, and I hope to hear from you. Thanks!
P.S. You don't need to get all detective on me just because I'm anon, but if you do figure out who this is? Please don't be a dick and spread your knowledge (totally wishful thinking, but I think I've been cool enough with everyone and I hope they don't think I deserve that).
P.P.S. If the people I'm talking about figure out who this is? Yikes, first of all, but no pressure. I mean it.
This place is full of romantics. I've met a bunch of Witches and Monsters who're getting together in pairs, three-of-a-kinds, and some are even going for full houses. I'm in a bit of a pickle and I'd like some advice on the problem, since everyone's probably way better at figuring this stuff out than me. And, actually, it's more like a couple of problems? Because I really, really like two separate people.
I know this is a story as old as time and if I don't be careful I could make a huge mess of everything, but I genuinely don't know what to do with myself. "You can't have your cake and eat it, too," is a really relevant expression to use here, I feel, and overall I've got so little experience asking one person out let alone multiple. Both of them are unique and couldn't be more different, which is probably what's making the decision on who to try for so difficult. They're both funny and attractive, but one's super smart, affectionate, and dynamic, while the other's strong, willful, and considerate.
What are your thoughts? Am I overthinking it, or being too callous? Having crushes on your friends is normal, but how about moving forward with both of them? Sorry if this is weird, or no one actually gives a shit. I do, and I hope to hear from you. Thanks!
P.S. You don't need to get all detective on me just because I'm anon, but if you do figure out who this is? Please don't be a dick and spread your knowledge (totally wishful thinking, but I think I've been cool enough with everyone and I hope they don't think I deserve that).
P.P.S. If the people I'm talking about figure out who this is? Yikes, first of all, but no pressure. I mean it.
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But I kind of messed it all up. Maybe you're right and I'm not ready. What would you do if you were confused about just everything and wanted clarification before making a move?
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He could easily make jokes, but... eh. He didn't read all those books on romance for nothing, right? ]
I've never dated anyone before so my advice probably isn't the best if you're wanting something from personal experience.
But if I was going to, I'd see how they feel about dating you in general. Separately, of course.
Then if they were both okay with the idea, I'd sit them down together and just ask.
Maybe after setting things up ahead of time.
For instance, if one liked flowers a lot, I'd have some I thought they'd like there. If the other had a favorite food, I'd have that there.
I'm pretty sure the key would always be to make sure neither feels forgotten or left out.
[ Funny how much of this is just speaking from personal experience with his friends. Friends he's missing alot, right now... ]
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Okay, so maybe ask separately and then altogether? Which might be a good idea... I just have to think everything everyone's saying over and make sure it agrees with what I think.
Be honest, does this post make me seem like I'm not to be trusted or anything? I wanna know how I'm coming across. I figure since we don't know each other that well you'll give it to me straight.
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Wow, thanks.
[ And, well... Akira isn't actually a bad person to ask for honesty from. ]
Not to me, but everyone sees things differently.
I know some people who'd probably call you an idiot and demand you give it to them straight from then on.
They'd probably feel like you didn't trust them...
[ . . . helpful, though... uhhhh... ]
Worst case scenario, promise it won't happen again?
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Jesus, I hope not. Maybe I should've filtered it all from them, but I thought if they did find out from someone else that that'd be even worse? Why is this stuff so complicated when it doesn't even feel that way? For me, anyway.
I appreciate you being real with me, so thanks for doing that. ik it can be super awkward.
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It's complicated because people are complicated messes. But I think it's part of the charm.
You being willing to deal with that for them means something.
And no problem.
[ Awkward sure is a word for it, yeah... ... But he's glad his time spent reading managed to be helpful here.
+1 to Knowledge, or something. ]
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lol, part of the charm for real. Anyway, what's your name? I can't just call you puuurrrrrsona owo all the time, can I?
Unless.......
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Not with that attitude!
[ Akira no... ]
Purrista works too.
Or just Akira.
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Well, it's nice to meet you, Akira. I'll intro myself later when all this dies down, I swear.