text, un: anonymous.

[coherer]

Can't believe this is gonna be my first post on here, awkwaaard lol.

This place is full of romantics. I've met a bunch of Witches and Monsters who're getting together in pairs, three-of-a-kinds, and some are even going for full houses. I'm in a bit of a pickle and I'd like some advice on the problem, since everyone's probably way better at figuring this stuff out than me. And, actually, it's more like a couple of problems? Because I really, really like two separate people.

I know this is a story as old as time and if I don't be careful I could make a huge mess of everything, but I genuinely don't know what to do with myself. "You can't have your cake and eat it, too," is a really relevant expression to use here, I feel, and overall I've got so little experience asking one person out let alone multiple. Both of them are unique and couldn't be more different, which is probably what's making the decision on who to try for so difficult. They're both funny and attractive, but one's super smart, affectionate, and dynamic, while the other's strong, willful, and considerate.

What are your thoughts? Am I overthinking it, or being too callous? Having crushes on your friends is normal, but how about moving forward with both of them? Sorry if this is weird, or no one actually gives a shit. I do, and I hope to hear from you. Thanks!

P.S. You don't need to get all detective on me just because I'm anon, but if you do figure out who this is? Please don't be a dick and spread your knowledge (totally wishful thinking, but I think I've been cool enough with everyone and I hope they don't think I deserve that).

P.P.S. If the people I'm talking about figure out who this is? Yikes, first of all, but no pressure. I mean it.

Comments

text; un: sasukeuchiha

[eyeforaneye]

Neither of them. Find someone smart, affectionate, dynamic, strong, willful, and considerate if those are the traits you value.

How could that be so difficult? If you're interested in something serious then take it seriously.

[coherer]

(this infuriatingly funny and jonas doesn't know whether to laugh or beat his head against a wall.)

Oh yeah, you're totally right! I'll just stop feeling feelings that are entirely out of my control and move on to someone like that! Why didn't I think of that? Plus, there's 100% chance that person exists!

New message: anyone out there who's smart, affectionate, dynamic, strong, willful, and considerate? Wanna go out?

[anbu]

[Does Sasuke even know this is about him? Please, little brother, live up to his expectations...]

It's also possible that this posting was an attempt to take it seriously.

text; un: itachiuchiha

[anbu]

[This could not be more painfully, obviously Jonas. And that's the only reason he even deigns to reply to it.]

Why is a relationship of that kind necessary?

[coherer]

(.........)

I call your question and raise you this: why is a relationship of this kind unnecessary?

un: jaeger

[usurpers]

What are you hoping to hear?

[coherer]

Nothing, really. Just general things that might help make sense of things.

But I could say the dream would be for it all to work out and the three of us can have a good time together. I've just never given any thought to polygamy I guess? And I haven't asked either of them what they'd think about it. So it's complicated in that sense.

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[bloodwit]

[ instead of scrolling past at lightspeed, he is really, really putting forth an effort at being sympathetic here. ]

You're not overthinking it... Perhaps gauge their own feelings about being in a relationship with multiple people at once, first.

[coherer]

(you're doing great, man. turning a whole new leaf......)

That is a very very very good idea I somehow didn't think about till now.

I am so bad at this.

un: ma - text

[stopfen]

Don't.
Why would you ask even ask that on here with things like that stalking service.

[Oh look whose sober.]

[coherer]

What stalking service??? wtf

text; un: sylviak

[stardustish]

but what if you CAN have your cake and you CAN eat it, too!
lol, i don't really have any solid dating advice, i've never done it myself? but i support you in your romantic endeavors, anonymous!

[ UNHELPFUL. ]

[coherer]

(LMFAOOOOOOO SYLVIAAAAAAAA)

LOL, omg. Thank you so much? I'm gonna try my best and maybe something'll happen and maybe it won't.

You've never dated anyone before? (Not judging.)

un: purrrrrsonaowo

[beguiledcard]

If you can't ask them how they feel, you're not ready.

[coherer]

This is just step 1, man. Inform myself, then move onto step 2.

But I kind of messed it all up. Maybe you're right and I'm not ready. What would you do if you were confused about just everything and wanted clarification before making a move?

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[mensrea]

[ Within reading the first line of text, he’s grinning already in fond amusement. Well, well, well. What could his best friend possibly need to use the network “anonymously” for? ]

[mensrea]

[ But all sense of mirth evaporates as he continues reading, the bottom of his stomach dropping unpleasantly when he realizes Jonas is polling Mirrorbound for advice about dating. You know it’s better this way, he tries to tell himself. In spite of his feelings, it isn’t as if he ever intended to make a real pass at Jonas. Sure, it’s been nearly half a year since his breakup with Malia, yet crippling insecurity and doubt convinced Stiles not to rock the boat that he’s made his home. Instead of disappointed, he should be happy for his best friend. Jonas deserves a chance at a normal teenage life.

Once Stiles has semi-successfully managed to put aside his dejectedness (keyword: semi-successfully), he finally reads on. Traitorously, his heartrate begins to pick up again the moment he understands that Jonas is interested in two people, like maybe he still has a shot. Shock washes over him when he finds the descriptions, because there’s no way, he’s just being stupidly hopeful, plenty of people could fit “super smart, affectionate, and dynamic.” Except Jonas has explicitly called him smart multiple times in the past. This is about him. This is about him? This is totally about him. This is about Stiles. Jonas is interested in Stiles.

“Is this going to be a regular occurrence?” Mila asks him from outside the Worse Dragon changing room that Stiles is currently ensconced in. “Darling, please hyperventilate where the customers can’t hear you.”

Later, after an aborted panic attack, Stiles lies supine on the counter where he should be ringing up customers. He gazes up at the ceiling in a dreamy state of giddy elation and nervous dread while cuddling a dildo. (It’d been sitting on the counter and he’d been too mentally checked out to put it back where it belongs.) Jonas is interested in him. He’s interested in Jonas. Maybe it shouldn’t be a big deal, yet here he is – mooning over it like a thirteen-year-old girl with her first crush. Every time someone expressed interest in Stiles, it’d been with a sudden, unbidden kiss, giving him no time to process it beyond a wildly incredulously, “Wow, okay, guess this is happening now?” This is new.

But that insecurity and doubt remain. What if this ruins their friendship? After what happened with Malia – and the lack of closure he’s had, what with being magicked away to Aefenglom – he doesn’t know if he should encourage this. Stiles is a mess. He knows that. There’s so much about his life he hasn’t shared with Jonas. Would Jonas still feel the same, still find him funny and attractive, if he found out about Donovan? About some of the other underhanded and manipulative things he’s done? In many ways, dating Malia was safe and easy; she was pack, embroiled in the dangerous world between supernatural and humanity that Stiles straddled. Yeah, this is terrifyingly new. Also, how does, “Dear dad, I guess I’m bisexual because I want to bump uglies with my best friend, xoxo from another dimension” sound?

That aside… He frowns, hands tightening around the dildo with an unconscious flare of possessiveness. Who the hell is the other person? Jonas seems interested in seeing the two of them simultaneously. An open relationship, essentially. A sigh builds behind his diaphragm (or maybe it’s just acid reflux). So, Jonas wants to date casually. As much as he wishes he could handle that, Stiles knows himself – he can’t do casual. He doesn’t want casual. Having to share Jonas with someone else… Countdown until he develops a complex about it. In fact… “Strong, willful, and considerate.” Scott immediately comes to mind, which is totally unhelpful. The next individual he envisions is, naturally, Sasuke. Jonas with Sasuke…? A grim kind of acceptance settles over him, like he’s braced to accept second place in a race. While he can’t imagine Sasuke in any kind of intimate relationship in spite of what the Vampire told him the night of the meteor shower, he can picture them together.

God, how did Jonas keep this from both his Bondmates?

The dildo squeaks in protest as he fists it, mouth parted in wonder. Holy shit. Is this why Jonas refuses to masturbate now that he’s Bonded to Stiles and Sasuke? Would he be thinking of them when he…?

“Stiles.” Mila sounds irritated now. “These changing rooms don’t exist for you to perpetually use for your teenage drama. At least try on some lingerie while you’re freaking out in there. Tell me how it fits.”

An hour passes before his emotions are under enough control for him to even consider responding to the network post. Stiles takes time to peruse the public replies first, cringing at Sasuke’s. Looks like the cat’s out of the bag there. ]

text; un: belmont

[quickwhip]

I'm confused. Do you WANT to be with them both?

[coherer]

Yeah, for sure I do. Sorry if I was vague or anything.

text; un: hemlock

[unholey]

Personally, my advice would be "just wait it out". Your more inconvenient feelings will probably fade with time and you can just be friends with these people. You seem to value your current relationship with them, so that would be your safest bet.

But it sounds like you've already made your decision, so... don't be an asshole, I guess? Be honest, respect boundaries, don't be weird about it. With how sincere this post is, it'll probably work out one way or another.

[coherer]

Cool, a differing opinion. I'm serious, I need all the angles.

I'm glad you think this is sincere. It is, totally, just a couple people mentioned it might come off not-so-nice.

Waiting it out and valuing the friendships instead is the best bet, you think, and maybe seeing where things go naturally? Or like, not going for it at all? Not that I think my feelings are inconvenient, I like having crushes on people and they make me feel giddy, but maybe they are for others?

text; un: ursamajor

[beariot]

Honestly you are way more steps ahead than I ever was and I still wound up in a situation with three significant others that all manage to co-exist despite my constant background anxiety that it's all a bad day away from disappearing on me.






I realize that makes for a depressing response. I guess what I'm saying is if your luck is anything like mine, it'll probably happen no matter how the topic gets breached. It'll happen before you even realize it's happening.

[coherer]

(jonas blinks, staring at the message. the entire first part is exactly how he feels and nothing's even gone down, yet. it sheds light on the subject in a way the other responses—which were mostly filled with great advice, or more heated discussions—didn't, coming from experience. like trevor's.

"depressing," the commenter says, but to jonas it's a relief. especially after reading the rest.)

I need this text stamped on my forehead, seriously. Thank you.

I don't think it's sad, or anything. Seems like a natural way to think about that kinda thing, maybe more so if it's smth you've never done before? But I'm pumped to hear it's working out for you.

Honestly, even if it all comes as a total surprise I'll be thrilled LOL.

Is this your first time in a relationship like yours? And do you guys deal with jealousy, or other stuff like that?

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[yesdoubt]

[Anon because Momo does not want anyone else knowing exactly how much thought he's put into this kind of scenario when he shouldn't even be allowing himself to think about it back home.]

I don't think experience is that much of a problem, since everyone starts somewhere
You'll need to be willing to communicate openly and honestly with both of them about what you all want, because not everyone is going to be prepared to move into a relationship like that
But I think if all three of you are close, there's a strong chance they'll at least be willing to try
So the worst that can happen if you ask about moving ahead with both of them first is that you'll have to decide on one after the fact
But even then, you all know where you stand with each other after that conversation? So I think you've got everything to gain and not much to lose by having it
I know people worry about "ruining" friendships with unrequited romance but in practice it's fine if the boundaries are clear

[coherer]

Experience is pretty problematic when you've got no idea where to start. Thanks to a few people, I think I might be ready to tackle some of this, though.

Neither of them are the kind of person who'd just drop me altogether if things don't work out and I trust them, so. I hope they trust me and feel confident in saying no or yes, whatever the answer is. I'm prepared for that.

text; un: kor

[spirialink]

Have you tried talking about this with either of them? Maybe they feel the same way!

what's poker got to do with all this, though?

[coherer]

Not yet, but I plan to!

All of this was kind of a stream of consciousness thing for me, so my thoughts on polygamy really just got spewed out as poker terms? Your guess is as good as mine, buddy.

[wylderrant]

Why not have both?

That's what I would do.

[coherer]

Yeah, that's the point of the post, really. I like both and I'd want to be with both, but not if they disagree or anything like that.

It's not JUST my decision, you know?

un: itssoren

[proudofme]

I got no advice I'm just jealous

good luck???

[coherer]

Thanks, I'll need it.

But you know... you do have the power to seek this kinda thing out for yourself.

[video]

[gilgamess]

Mongrel, why are you so troubled over merely two lovers? I cannot comprehend what problem you have when deciding among so small a number.

[ these people and their strange ways. ]

Ah, I suppose customs are different among the lower classes. As King, I never wanted for beauties to lie with. Indeed, such affections grew dull to me in their abundance.

[ he hms and shakes his head, sighing a little. ]

Perhaps I was abrupt. The sufferings of the impoverished are difficult for me to comprehend.

Yet as there is no law requiring you to only choose one, you need merely put aside your customs and take both as lovers. It is a simple matter.

[coherer]

(gilgamesh, he would love to take your advice and take the proverbial bull by the horns, but.

this is something.)

Excuuuuuuuse me? LMAO.

Blondie, I don't really care if you ARE a king. You sound like a total dickhead. Do you get off calling people "mongrels," and "impoverished?" What right do you have, here, in a place where we're just temporary fixtures?

I don't want or need your advice, dude. What a joke.

text: un fuckingusername

[fuckingpassw0rd]

look as long as everyone's okay with it then there's no problem. you young? plenty of time to experiment.

ps - am a dick detective, don't care trying to figure out who you are

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[coherer]

lol great username dude.

That's what I'm hearing from people, yeah. But the experiment only works when everyone's on board, so I definitely need to check w/ that. Thanks for respecting my privacy though.

Are you seriously a detective? Like a cop detective?