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[coherer]

Can't believe this is gonna be my first post on here, awkwaaard lol.

This place is full of romantics. I've met a bunch of Witches and Monsters who're getting together in pairs, three-of-a-kinds, and some are even going for full houses. I'm in a bit of a pickle and I'd like some advice on the problem, since everyone's probably way better at figuring this stuff out than me. And, actually, it's more like a couple of problems? Because I really, really like two separate people.

I know this is a story as old as time and if I don't be careful I could make a huge mess of everything, but I genuinely don't know what to do with myself. "You can't have your cake and eat it, too," is a really relevant expression to use here, I feel, and overall I've got so little experience asking one person out let alone multiple. Both of them are unique and couldn't be more different, which is probably what's making the decision on who to try for so difficult. They're both funny and attractive, but one's super smart, affectionate, and dynamic, while the other's strong, willful, and considerate.

What are your thoughts? Am I overthinking it, or being too callous? Having crushes on your friends is normal, but how about moving forward with both of them? Sorry if this is weird, or no one actually gives a shit. I do, and I hope to hear from you. Thanks!

P.S. You don't need to get all detective on me just because I'm anon, but if you do figure out who this is? Please don't be a dick and spread your knowledge (totally wishful thinking, but I think I've been cool enough with everyone and I hope they don't think I deserve that).

P.P.S. If the people I'm talking about figure out who this is? Yikes, first of all, but no pressure. I mean it.

Comments

[yesdoubt]

Yeah, I was more saying nobody has much of a idea where to start when it comes to talking about love unless they had to hurl themselves in face-first too
Being in a position where you can get lots of advice is good, since that'd be harder in some worlds with this kind of relationship

That's a much safer position, then, if you're sure of that
I think that's the kind of position where they're more likely to be confident in giving you an honest answer, too
They know they don't have to cater to you to keep your friendship or worry that an answer you "don't like" will mess things up
That said, not everyone is confident about love, but you seem like you'll give them the space they need to think if the answer isn't an immediate yes or no

Also now that I'm thinking about it, are you aiming for a "complete triangle" sort of relationship or a "V-shape" kind of thing? Triangle's kinda harder to predict but some people are really obvious about feelings so sometimes you can come in knowing the end intent is a triangle...

[coherer]

A complete triangle.

I don't want like two separate people because then that's just me selfishly having side chicks and that'd be rough on everyone. Optimally everything'd work out and we'd all be together, but that's wishful thinking on my part I think.

Gotta try to know.

[yesdoubt]

The V must work for some people but yeah I prefer the triangle myself, it just seems like a nicer arrangement to me
I wouldn't say it's wishful thinking before you've even asked, though, you never know how things are going to turn out when communication starts happening and people can get their feelings out
I do think going for the triangle makes talking to both of them about it at the same time the ideal approach since then you can all just have an open round table sort of situation and talk things out without having to leave someone out of the loop at first
Communication is huge in any relationship so starting off on that foot sets a precedent for that kind of openness, you know?

[He says, only having personal experience with the opposite situation where lying becomes the precedent and communication turns into a shitshow.]

[coherer]

Yeah, I think they both know what's what now since I kinda outed myself by accident, so my info gathering has turned into damage control, but that works just as well as anything.

It'll work out, I'm not expecting anything from them or really trying to make life hard for everyone. Which I think I've made pretty clear.

[yesdoubt]

Oops
Well at least that saves you having to explain the situation? Definitely works in that way, means you don't have to try and explain it again in the moment

I think it'll work out too!
It sounds like you have a positive attitude about it
But also an honest one which is just as important when it comes to stuff like this
I'll cheer you on from anon

[coherer]

That's true I guess. Kinda bummed I couldn't bring it to them myself, but I'm cool with this too. Airing it all out feels alright.

Thanks, stranger.

[yesdoubt]

It's kinda like taking a load off, even if you've still got things to figure out, right?

No problem! And good luck
Hope everything works out for the best