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[coherer]

Can't believe this is gonna be my first post on here, awkwaaard lol.

This place is full of romantics. I've met a bunch of Witches and Monsters who're getting together in pairs, three-of-a-kinds, and some are even going for full houses. I'm in a bit of a pickle and I'd like some advice on the problem, since everyone's probably way better at figuring this stuff out than me. And, actually, it's more like a couple of problems? Because I really, really like two separate people.

I know this is a story as old as time and if I don't be careful I could make a huge mess of everything, but I genuinely don't know what to do with myself. "You can't have your cake and eat it, too," is a really relevant expression to use here, I feel, and overall I've got so little experience asking one person out let alone multiple. Both of them are unique and couldn't be more different, which is probably what's making the decision on who to try for so difficult. They're both funny and attractive, but one's super smart, affectionate, and dynamic, while the other's strong, willful, and considerate.

What are your thoughts? Am I overthinking it, or being too callous? Having crushes on your friends is normal, but how about moving forward with both of them? Sorry if this is weird, or no one actually gives a shit. I do, and I hope to hear from you. Thanks!

P.S. You don't need to get all detective on me just because I'm anon, but if you do figure out who this is? Please don't be a dick and spread your knowledge (totally wishful thinking, but I think I've been cool enough with everyone and I hope they don't think I deserve that).

P.P.S. If the people I'm talking about figure out who this is? Yikes, first of all, but no pressure. I mean it.

Comments

[wylderrant]

Why not have both?

That's what I would do.

[coherer]

Yeah, that's the point of the post, really. I like both and I'd want to be with both, but not if they disagree or anything like that.

It's not JUST my decision, you know?

[wylderrant]

I suppose not, but you could probably make it work with a bit of effort...

[coherer]

At any rate, I like the can-do attitude.

Does this stem from experience, or?

[wylderrant]

Maybe a little bit. Although I mostly just kept them in the dark, which isn't what you want to do, I think.

[coherer]

What, like, cheating on them? Or something like that?

(IRAMAAT...)

[wylderrant]

It's not cheating!

[ Iramaat, it is exactly cheating. ]

It's simply keeping your options open and maintaining lines of communication to all interested parties. Besides, what people don't know doesn't hurt them, does it? That was a long time ago, anyway.

[coherer]

Yeah, no, that's called cheating! LOL

("keeping your options open," it's almost funny how oblivious the comment is. almost. actually, he can't help but smother a chuckle against the back of his hand.)

What people don't know absolutely hurts them if they find out about it later. It actually might hurt them worse??? ig so long as they know for sure that it's a casual thing for all parties, but I have no idea how that'd even go.

You are one brave soul.

[wylderrant]

No one I knew ever complained.

At least not to me.

[coherer]

Then colour me impressed, the more the merrier if everyone's cool with it.

[wylderrant]

I do enjoy the "more" aspect.

Although admittedly sometimes I get a teensy bit possessive.

[coherer]

ummmm possessiveness, huh? What does that entail? If you don't mind my asking.

[wylderrant]

Well, I like them paying attention to me, you know? But who doesn't? That's all, really.

[ Sort of. Maybe. ]

[coherer]

So if you were in a steady 3-person relationship type thing, would you say you'd get jealous over the others?

(this is good information for his research, iramaat, keep it comin'.)

[wylderrant]

Not as long as I was an important part of it, no.

[coherer]

Hahaha, well I hope your romantic adventures continue to go??? well??? in the future.

[wylderrant]

Sadly, I'm in a bit of a dry spell right now... although I suppose I have a friend I enjoy spending time with, but that's not quite the same.

[coherer]

Hey, a friend, that's more like it. Do you guys get on super well?

It's platonic, right? Like you don't feel anything else for them. Romantically or whatever.

[wylderrant]

Well, we had sex once.

And talk. There's talking involved.

[coherer]

Yeeeeep. That's generally what happens....

[wylderrant]

I think it's worked out so far.

Still, I'd love to help you with your problems.

[coherer]

I don't know if I want you to now LMAOOOOOOO

[wylderrant]

Oh, that's a pity...

[coherer]

I mean what would your advice be? Because I'm not interested in cheating and/or just forcing it to happen.

[wylderrant]

Do what the heart wants; that can't go wrong too often.