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[marmoron]

Name: Anonymous
Date: 7/2 (after new mirrorbound arrive!)
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question. what's supposed to go into a bonding vow? how did your bonding ceremonies go? are you supposed to wear something nice? bring presents? would appreciate some advice.

[ Help out an anonymous space mullet? ]

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[marmoron]

probably?
but wouldn't that make it weird?
i don't really want them to think i thought about it as much as i did

[currysseur]

[ Oh, this person is shy, huh. ]

Would it cause a problem if they knew you put thought into this event?

[ She might have just gotten here, but the lectures that were held certainly seemed to imply that bonding was a pretty big deal in the first place. ]

[marmoron]

i don't know
i'm pretty sure they wanted to get bonded to me because they thought i wouldn't get attached or sentimental


which i'm not
it's just hard not to care about someone's happiness when you can feel it like your own

[currysseur]

[ Somehow that claim isn't holding a great deal of water, stranger. ]

I see.
However, it sounds like it is difficult to Bond without any attachment to the other person. I don't think you should feel conflicted about caring about someone's happiness. Isn't that true of all people, whether they're bonded or not?

[marmoron]

ok
when you put it that way, i guess you're right about that



but honestly?
i guess that makes me feel unsettled
people i care about don't really tend to stick around
it's not their fault or anything

[ But it's a pattern. ]

[currysseur]

[ Oh.

That makes sense. That kind of fear plagues a lot of people, doesn't it? ]

The thought that people will leave us is something we all have to face in one way or another. Not every friendship or relationship lasts. I'm also worried about the day I'll have to say goodbye to the people I care about. But that day hasn't come yet, and by worrying about it, we won't be able to enjoy these precious moments we have now.

By treating every moment with this person as something unique and special, you'll have good memories to look back on when you're older.