text -- anonymous

[turmoiling]

Name: anonymous
Date: 5/16
Format: text

Has anyone discovered a way to control what or how much is felt through a Bond? Sharing feelings between the two of us is usually not a problem. But there are some things that my Bonded is much more sensitive to than myself, and I don't wish to put them through a difficult time again.

Comments

text; un: sylphid

[sylphid]

what, like it's hard?

[turmoiling]

Perhaps with practice it's easier. I would hope for a solution in the interim.

[sylphid]

quick fixes are rarely worth it if it's that important.

[fiddlestick]

[He sighs at fie's response, not that he can hear it.]

Yeah, you can control how much your Bonded. It just takes some practice to get used to.

[turmoiling]

Let's assume for the sake of argument that degree of control isn't possible on a personal level.

[fiddlestick]

Isn't possible...?

Then I don't know. I haven't heard of anything other than that, sorry.

audio; un: reddeer

[rightfoot]

It's not that hard if you're willing to put even the smallest bit of effort in.

[turmoiling]

Unfortunately, that is incorrect in this case.

[rightfoot]

Why so? Neither of you are able or willing to put in effort?

un: connor

[plasticasshole]

It takes some concentration at first, but you can control it. It gets easier with time. Something that helped me was to imagine a wall between me and my Bonded. Visualising the blocking process at first helped me to eventually do it without the wall, whenever I needed to.

[turmoiling]

I do appreciate the suggestion, and it must have some merit since you're the second one to mention that mental image. But I am concerned about what to do in the interim, even if we are to assume that such a wall will be enough with practice.

[plasticasshole]

Well... if you're desperate, I know there are potions that dampen the connection of a Bond. I'm not sure what side effects there are if any, though. When you say your Bonded is more sensitive to certain things, could you elaborate?

speech-to-text, typos intentional; un: infinitepossibilibees

[faithlikeaseed]

You already sound as if you have all the advice you need on learning better control.

I think they neglect that control isn't always absolute and we Monsters are told not to make ours iron.

What's keeping your Bondmate from feeling in sympathy with you.

That was a question, if it doesn't show.

[turmoiling]

Such control is really only necessary on certain occasions. Otherwise I have few complaints with what is shared.

Perhaps the best way to put it is in a difference of personal character. I'm sure there are those who would say it should be otherwise, but they should not feel the same as I.

[faithlikeaseed]

So you train only sparsely at putting up your barriers and you don't have the reaction time when you really need them.

Some who would say it should be otherwise--that you ought to be bonded to someone of the same character?

[judgementor]

I had similar problems at the start.

I found some measure of honesty regarding my feelings... both with him and with myself... helped in some respects.

[turmoiling]

I would say that honesty is a great deal of the problem.

[judgementor]

Oh? What makes you say that?

un: ma - text

[stopfen]

Isn't this one of the things they tech at the Coven?

Re: un: ma - text

[turmoiling]

Is it? I think both of us have been rather preoccupied of late.

[stopfen]

I'm not sure if it's the exact thing you're asking about. But they did go more into how bonds worked.

It seems to be working.

voice; un: METTATON

[glitzandglamour]

Since so many of these beautiful commenters have provided fantastic solutions, effective or not... Tell me, darling. Why are you Bonded with someone who you wish not to bare the whole of yourself to? Personally, I wouldn't Bond with someone who couldn't handle me!

[turmoiling]

Have you found a person like that? You must be lucky indeed.

[glitzandglamour]

I have! And. If either of us couldn't handle the other... we'd concede defeat, and annul the Bond. Those were our terms! And how rewarding it's been... Yes. We're both lucky.

In your case. Isn't it possible that you should be focusing not on stifling or controlling your own feelings... but your Bonded partner's sensitivity to them? Even if you managed to block all of yourself to protect your Bonded's sensitivity, would that really make you feel better, beautiful?

text: purrsuing

[izanyagi]

I'm just here for pointers and see what others told you, honestly. I'd like to be able to help my bonded since I have no idea what might happen.

[Like if he thought too much about him and he might get ideas and Yu doesn't want Yosuke to worry about that when they have other things to worry about.]