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[darkestbefore]

Name: Yona
Date: 6/1
Format: Text

[ Considering how long she's been here now and how... enthusiastic her Coven mentors have been about her finding a Bond, Yona's finally worked up the courage to try and use this strange device for herself and ask for some advice. ]

How did those of you who have made Bonds know that your partner was right for you? Was it just something casual and easy? Was it something deeper than that? Did you have a hard time finding someone when you first arrived?

[ Was that too intrusive? Insecure? She hopes not... ]

And those of you who haven't yet... what is it you're looking for?

Comments

[darkestbefore]

[ She has to laugh a little at that, but to be fair, that is a common interest she can see people bonding over. ]

Do you still feel the same, now that you have a bonded of your own?

[digiorno]

[Hm. It's a good question, one with a complicated answer.]

i think that the view of bonds is vastly oversimplified in aefenglom and that there is not enough care taken, legally or magically, to protect people from dangerous bonded. i think it's a lot to ask of mirrorbound to accept the bond system at face value when they arrive, and i think it's fair that many people resist a bond to the point of putting themselves and others in danger.

on the other hand, i understand more of the context around bonds now and why there is so much focus on positivity at all costs. it's reactive and stupid, but i understand it.

and i also know that i made the right choice with both of my bonded.

[darkestbefore]

[ What an interesting answer, and something she'd like to think about at length, especially now that she's getting so many perspectives from it. ]

Are there many incidents of dangerous bonded? I had not heard much about that...

[ It makes sense. People, at their core, are complicated and different and in those ways, not everything will go smoothly. ]

I'm trying to avoid the dangerous aspects of going without for too long myself, Even though I'm still struggling with feeling like I know those around me well enough to enter into such a relationship.

But it's also encouraging to hear that so many have had a positive experience - even those who resisted or were suspicious of it at the start.