text, un: anonymous.

[coherer]

Can't believe this is gonna be my first post on here, awkwaaard lol.

This place is full of romantics. I've met a bunch of Witches and Monsters who're getting together in pairs, three-of-a-kinds, and some are even going for full houses. I'm in a bit of a pickle and I'd like some advice on the problem, since everyone's probably way better at figuring this stuff out than me. And, actually, it's more like a couple of problems? Because I really, really like two separate people.

I know this is a story as old as time and if I don't be careful I could make a huge mess of everything, but I genuinely don't know what to do with myself. "You can't have your cake and eat it, too," is a really relevant expression to use here, I feel, and overall I've got so little experience asking one person out let alone multiple. Both of them are unique and couldn't be more different, which is probably what's making the decision on who to try for so difficult. They're both funny and attractive, but one's super smart, affectionate, and dynamic, while the other's strong, willful, and considerate.

What are your thoughts? Am I overthinking it, or being too callous? Having crushes on your friends is normal, but how about moving forward with both of them? Sorry if this is weird, or no one actually gives a shit. I do, and I hope to hear from you. Thanks!

P.S. You don't need to get all detective on me just because I'm anon, but if you do figure out who this is? Please don't be a dick and spread your knowledge (totally wishful thinking, but I think I've been cool enough with everyone and I hope they don't think I deserve that).

P.P.S. If the people I'm talking about figure out who this is? Yikes, first of all, but no pressure. I mean it.

Comments

[bloodwit]

[ thanx buddy... ]

You're not the first person who has asked of this sort of thing, and I highly doubt you will be the last.

This place can seem to present [..] novel circumstances, as any place would when dragging in so many individuals from so many different places. Some confusion as to how approach relationships here can be expected.

[coherer]

Yes, that's what I'm talking about! I'm from one world, but they could be from another. So I'm just trying to expand my horizons on what to expect from other perspectives too I guess?

I don't want to be an uninformed douchebag about this stuff.

Do you have experience in it?

[bloodwit]

Experience in, being in romantic relationships with multiple people? Here?

[coherer]

Yeah. And if not, theeen I guess just in a regular crush-y scenario?

[bloodwit]

I would think many people would know what it's like to have feelings for someone that don't match with how they feel about you... If they feel anything for you in the first place.

Perhaps I have considered it. But, it's something I would have to evaluate as to whether its worthwhile, first, too.

[coherer]

That's true. It's easy to just sorta ignore everyone else and go along with your own way of thinking. I did that for a long time, so I'm trying be more chill with things wrt myself and spend more time thinking about others.

Worthwhile how? Are you thinking about what would happen later, like if you or one of them went home or smth like that?

[bloodwit]

"Wrt"? -- With regards to?

Whether potentially asking for that sort of thing, even after gauging how they feel about romantic endeavors with multiple partners, would be worthwhile. I don't yet know if my feelings run that deep, first of all.

But my own hypothetical situation, here, is beside the point.

Just -- be careful, I suppose, is my forefront advice. But even then, you could be the most careful person in the world, and it might still backfire. You may foolishly think you know all there is to know about a person. It sounds as if you already have a good thing, and you don't want to ruin that.

[coherer]

Oh, yep, you got it.

(he really needs to curtail this text speak when dealing with people from other worlds...........)

They don't have to run that deep, do they? Everyone's like "go in 100% or not at all!" And I'm like okay but relationships on Earth don't go that way most of the time. They start small, going on dates and having fun, then they become something more if all parties are feeling good about it. I think that's what I'd want to have happen, of course I can't speak for the others.

You're right that you don't really know a person, it's the wanting to that makes me want to try for this. Backfires are something I can handle. I don't mean to keep prying, but is that what you're worried about?

[bloodwit]

[...] I will concede you have a point, there.

[ unheard of, that. ]

If you can handle it going less than in your favor, then I commend you for that. As to your question -- yes. Maybe I am concerned about that.

VIREN 😭😭😭

[coherer]

Being commended feels pretty sweet, I gotta say. Thanks.

(validated.)

I'm one of the ppl who're like "oh, take the risk, live the way you want," but that doesn't jive with everyone's philosophies. Take your time, I'll take my time, and we'll eventually figure it out.

Sometimes you need to give yourself a little push to balance out the options, though, if you're more serious than other people. That'll give your feelings a fair fighting chance.

[bloodwit]

[ viren feels pretty stupid, having this conversation turned, having aired out his fear of having his delicate feelings (ego) dashed to an anonymous stranger. he dislikes it.* ]

As you've said. We will see...

Best wishes as to [ ... how to put this. it turns out about as stilted as anyone could achieve. ] managing your romantic endeavors.

[coherer]

A "good luck" works perfectly fine. To you, too, though.

(thanks for your advice, dad.)