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[ua_duibhne]

Name: Diarmuid Ua Duibhne
Date: 6/20
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[This is such a sensitive issue that Diarmuid's gone to the trouble of changing his user name from "Lancer" to the less conspicuous but creatively bankrupt "Question". Whether or not he's still identifiable through some other means is a mystery to him but he's willing to take that chance to find the answers to something that's begun to weigh on his mind as of late.]

Is Bonding with someone without your other Bonded partner or partners knowing the equivalent of being unfaithful? I understand that it can be separate from a romantic relationship but it's just as emotionally involved, is it not?

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[topslug]

I think the answer to that question depends on the vows you agreed on when you got Bonded, doesn't it? If you and your partners agree that each of you doesn't have to tell the others if they have another partner when you get Bonded, then I suppose it wouldn't be considered unfaithful, since you all agreed on the possibility of others from the start.

Other people might see it differently, though -- including the other person you Bond with. But I could see a situation where someone might not really consider it any of their business who else someone might be Bonded to.

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[ua_duibhne]

In all likelihood, that's how it works in theory but

This is lot more complex than I thought it would be, emotionally speaking.

[topslug]

Emotions usually are. But that’s why it’s better to talk to people when you can, so there’s a smaller chance of misunderstanding each other.

If you don’t mind me asking, who are you worried about being in this situation?

[ua_duibhne]

It's meant as more of a general question, really, but I have as much of a personal stake in it as anyone else here.

[translation: i have hang ups]

[topslug]

I don't think there can be a general answer to it, really ... but if you look at it purely from the perspective of the likely outcome, how well could a Bond be hidden from another in the first place? What would be the likely effect on the existing Bond? Or how might a person who's been tricked into Bonding feel if they found out they were lied to about the other person not having a partner?

From what I understand, Bonds aren't just formed and set in place. They're affected by the emotions and desires of the people in them. A Bond that was formed on a shaky foundation ... would it last in the first place?