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[ua_duibhne]

Name: Diarmuid Ua Duibhne
Date: 6/20
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[This is such a sensitive issue that Diarmuid's gone to the trouble of changing his user name from "Lancer" to the less conspicuous but creatively bankrupt "Question". Whether or not he's still identifiable through some other means is a mystery to him but he's willing to take that chance to find the answers to something that's begun to weigh on his mind as of late.]

Is Bonding with someone without your other Bonded partner or partners knowing the equivalent of being unfaithful? I understand that it can be separate from a romantic relationship but it's just as emotionally involved, is it not?

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[holyswordwielder]

[ If you ask him, this is all the more reason not to enter into a Bond with anyone. It sounds incredibly... messy? But since that’s not the question...

Hey, he knows a lot about unfaithfulness. He doesn’t really want to invite certain questions since he’s not bothering to hide his identity. He’s just going to bring up something else that no one else seems to have brought up yet. ]

I think it is fair to say that few would want to be bound in such a manner to an individual who impulsively involves someone else in their affairs like this— for many reasons. As I understand it, Bonds affect each other. The new Bond will have some influence on the first, by sheer virtue of them sharing a partner, both magically and personally.

Forming another Bond while you are already Bonded to someone else and without at least warning them might not be tantamount to infidelity in every case, but if nothing else, it is certainly foolish and disrespectful.

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[ua_duibhne]

[And there it is. Diarmuid's heart sinks- and then he presses on, trying to approach the subject from a more objective standpoint.

It's not fun.]

More or less, that's how I feel. But I'm also starting to wonder whether it isn't so simple.

There are many reasons why someone might want or need to form a Bond without letting their other partner know first but the real question is would any of them truly justify it? They're a matter of necessity to survive here.

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[holyswordwielder]

[ Arthur pauses before answering, mulling "Question"'s words over carefully. He too can think of some reasons why one might want the truth of their Bonds to be kept secret, but all the ends that he can think of don't justify the means. Moreover, the way Question phrases their question, it sounds as though they've already had real-world experience with this situation. Might it already be too late to be wondering about all this now? ]

I don't think anyone is calling it a simple matter. Certainly, relationships between people are complex, but I would advise an individual in such a situation to ask themselves: "if I feel I must hide a new Bond to the one I am already Bonded to, should I really be maintaining both at the same time?" It is a betrayal of trust, after all, regardless of the reasons. I'm liable to judge one who deceives others in such a manner as undeserving of a very personal Bond with anyone.