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[beariot]

Name: ANONYMOUS
Date: Before the event part 2
Format: Text

I swore I'd never make a post like this but I really am in a predicament and could use some perspectives.

Okay. So.

Let's say you are considering a pretty big life change. For example, moving in and sharing a living space with a significant other that you became close to, here. But both you and this person have bonded! And you're all REALLY close with said bonded! Like, also significant other levels. Or family. Just really really close.

How

do you manage all of those moving pieces? Can you? I feel like I'm going to lose my hair stressing over this.

Comments

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[ranyaulf]

I don't! That's how I manage them.

I let my bonded do it while I support him one hundred percent. When it comes to moving pieces, he does it better than anyone.

[beariot]

I don't think I'd be able to live with myself if I left a decision this important to someone else.

[ranyaulf]

Not even if that someone else is that important and significant to you?

[beariot]

That would honestly make it feel even worse. Like I was passing a burden to someone I care about.

[ranyaulf]

Well... surely they wouldn't want to carry that burden alone? And if it weighs on you that much, it also wouldn't hurt to share your struggles.

[beariot]

I'm sure it could be called 'sharing', since it all feels like making a pretty big life decision on their behalf.

[ranyaulf]

Hm.

It sounds like you just need to have an open and honest conversation, and trust that you're not the only one that's having these feelings.

But that's easier said than done, isn't it?

[beariot]

Definitely. Finding the bravery to do, well


any of that. That's the real challenge.

[ranyaulf]

I'm sure you can. Be brave not just for yourself, but for the people you care for!

Because that's important too.

[beariot]

[ For them... Well. Their happiness was at stake here, too, wasn't it? ]

I suppose it is, isn't it?

[ranyaulf]

It is. And I'm sure it isn't easy, so... hey. I believe in you and in everyone involved, too.

[beariot]

That

seems like a lot to say to a complete stranger.

[ranyaulf]

I think it's just the right amount!

And we're no longer complete strangers, right? Even if I don't know who you are, you now know me.

[beariot]

Well I suppose if I find the courage to do all of this, I'll have some left over to peak past my veil of anonymity to meet you properly.

[ranyaulf]

When you do and not if you do? I stick out! Just look for a blue cat. I think that's the best way to put it...