beariot: (a loose genius)
Pʀᴏꜰᴇssᴏʀ Uʀsᴜʟᴀ Cᴀʟʟɪsᴛɪs ([personal profile] beariot) wrote in [community profile] aefenglom2020-10-13 08:57 pm

text; un: anonymous

Name: ANONYMOUS
Date: Before the event part 2
Format: Text
I swore I'd never make a post like this but I really am in a predicament and could use some perspectives.

Okay. So.

Let's say you are considering a pretty big life change. For example, moving in and sharing a living space with a significant other that you became close to, here. But both you and this person have bonded! And you're all REALLY close with said bonded! Like, also significant other levels. Or family. Just really really close.

How

do you manage all of those moving pieces? Can you? I feel like I'm going to lose my hair stressing over this.
cryptsleeper: (Doing real research)

[personal profile] cryptsleeper 2020-10-14 02:11 am (UTC)(link)
Communication.

Everything you just put out gets said face to face. You go from there. It is both easier and harder than my statement makes it seem.
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[personal profile] cryptsleeper 2020-10-14 10:14 pm (UTC)(link)
Because things got a little confusing: how many people are involved here? Three including yourself?

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leitstern: (Contempt)

un: aquila

[personal profile] leitstern 2020-10-14 02:55 am (UTC)(link)
You manage by accepting reality, do you not? Those pieces you mention are facts you cannot change. There are reasons to each and every one.

In short, simply ask yourself, "What are my options?" Do you want to be miserable or do you wish to enjoy whatever remains of your life?
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blind_benevolence: (but I can't see clear)

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[personal profile] blind_benevolence 2020-10-14 03:12 am (UTC)(link)
Hm, you do have quite a predicament on your hands with that many people involved.

[ Suddenly he feels sort of lucky that he and Eileen are only bonded to each other. Not a big mess to sort out. ]

Communication is key, but I'm sure you know that. You're not all planning on living together, are you?

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recklessbelief: (06)

action

[personal profile] recklessbelief 2020-10-14 04:06 am (UTC)(link)
Ooh, Professor! Did you see this?

[Akko slides her watch across the table towards Chariot. As is typical of a teenager who has nothing else to do but wait (in this case, waiting on water to boil for tea), Akko pulled out her watch and began perusing what had been posted recently. It's then that she notices the highly anonymous post from Chariot, which is probably a moment of concern at a minimum. Surely, Akko has figured out the real identity of this anonymous individual. Especially being Bonded to her and sitting only a few feet from her.]

Maybe you should give them some advice since you got a lot of boyfriends and girlfriends.

[But bless her, it's Akko we're talking about here.]

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ranyaulf: (pspspspsps)

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[personal profile] ranyaulf 2020-10-14 05:11 pm (UTC)(link)
I don't! That's how I manage them.

I let my bonded do it while I support him one hundred percent. When it comes to moving pieces, he does it better than anyone.

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tothemetal: (eight.)

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[personal profile] tothemetal 2020-10-14 09:17 pm (UTC)(link)
just get a really big house ?

[...yeah, Styx isn't exactly the master of expert or nuanced advice here.]

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synchroswim: (pic#13895589)

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[personal profile] synchroswim 2020-10-15 03:55 am (UTC)(link)
iiiiiiits not really moving in with a uh
significant other for me but i... sorta ended up moving in with a bunch of people who were bonded with each other and are super tight with each other. me? nnnnot so much at the time for a bunch of reasons but

i just kinda... went with the flow of stuff i guess? still kinda am but its getting better
and talking, even if its kinda awkward sometimes :(

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getting_better: (23)

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[personal profile] getting_better 2020-10-15 03:14 pm (UTC)(link)
1) Holy shit.

2) I think the root of the problem is that you're trying to tackle everything at the same time and clearly by yourself. Unless there's something the other two from communicating like, I dunno - a blood feud or something, I think your best bet is to just sit down with the parties involved and talk it out. I mean, who knows, they might just be tearing their hairs out too.

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[personal profile] towards_okeanos 2020-10-16 07:24 am (UTC)(link)
Maybe you could all move in together? That would solve a lot of logistics issues. If your house is too small for everyone to fit you can always find a bigger one. Because otherwise, I don't see what else would need managing here.

Or is the problem really that any of those people dislike each other?

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fuckingpassw0rd: <user name=bungalows> (6)

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[personal profile] fuckingpassw0rd 2020-10-17 05:02 am (UTC)(link)
Sounds like you should have your own sitcom. We talking polygamy or just that you think the other bonded are gonna have to hear you two making out all the time?

Anyway, someone already said it, communication's the key.

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galrarm: (they want feedback)

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[personal profile] galrarm 2020-10-18 02:58 am (UTC)(link)
Take it from someone who's lived with a lot of different people: You're never going to have a perfect or harmonious environment at all times. If you try, it'll just end up burning you out and causing more problems.

Opening up avenues for communication can help mitigate some of that. But it's definitely possible to make it happen, if you're committed to it. Let everyone know their voice will be heard. If you care about each other, you'll find a way to make it work.

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[personal profile] loadme 2020-10-22 01:40 am (UTC)(link)
This is something you must really want, right?

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