video; un: zewu-jun

[zewu_jun]

Name: Lan Xichen
Date: forward-dated! 2/20
Format: video


[ Lan Xichen is resting on a rock beside what appears to be a calm lake. For those that frequent the Forge, they might recognize it as a nearby landmark one can pass on the route. He greets the network with a seated bow. ]

I apologize for the interruption, but I wonder if I might ask some questions to those who have time?

If you have a Bond, what prompted your decision to choose that person? I know Bonding is highly encouraged, but finding a suitable match might be complicated, and one cannot necessarily be trained in choosing a good partner. With only my own experience, I must assume not many other worlds have a custom like this. It's not the same as choosing to marry or finding a cultivation partner.

How do you know if you have made the right choice? Or, if you choose not to Bond at all, what are your feelings on such a connection?

I'm afraid I have based most of my judgments on the partnerships I know from my own life. Up until now, perhaps I have misunderstood the relationship that forms.

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Video: un; moonreader

[alpina]

[ It was an interesting question and luckily one that she didn't really need to think about since she was lucky to have come here knowing somebody already from her home world. She wonders if this isn't the case for him or if he knew someone from home...if they aren't trustworthy. ]

When I came here, I already knew somebody from back home that I had trusted and he explained the process further for me since he arrived much earlier to this world than I have. From what I know, it's less like an actual relationship with someone like you would have with a lover and more of a working relationship with a little bit on top.

That little bit being they can feel your emotions. That was something to get used to.

[zewu_jun]

[ His situation with those from home is certainly complicated. While he would like to trust his Bonded without question, that seems pretty much impossible now. He wants to give his friend another chance (again), and he wants to be fair, but they've both wounded each other before. And he looks a little disappointed when she describes the Bond as a working relationship. ]

But if you share your personal feelings with another like that, isn't it more personal? Being close enough to another person's true self to sense their emotions has important insights. We become vulnerable when we share that much...

[ Compared to his past situation where indulging in any emotion too much was just considered improper. ]