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thisisamazing) wrote in aefenglom2020-02-02 03:08 am
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Name: "anonymous" (Hiccup Haddock III)
Date: Feb. 2
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some things recently came up and it has me thinking a lot. i'm not sure who else to ask this? the person i'd normally talk to is... part of it.
is it possible to have romantic feelings for more than one person at the same time? does that make you a bad person? i never had to consider it before because i thought everything would be simple, for me at least, but now it isn't so simple and i'm not
sure what to do
i don't want to hurt them
[ooc: Hiccup is posting anonymously but as this function isn't always reliable, let me know if you want him to anonfail! He's having some relationship troubles whoops.]
Date: Feb. 2
Format: Text
some things recently came up and it has me thinking a lot. i'm not sure who else to ask this? the person i'd normally talk to is... part of it.
is it possible to have romantic feelings for more than one person at the same time? does that make you a bad person? i never had to consider it before because i thought everything would be simple, for me at least, but now it isn't so simple and i'm not
sure what to do
i don't want to hurt them
[ooc: Hiccup is posting anonymously but as this function isn't always reliable, let me know if you want him to anonfail! He's having some relationship troubles whoops.]
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it probably was... inevitable? we have a lot in common, and there isn't anyone here i trust more. he's always been there and now the fact that we're avoiding each other is driving me crazy.
poly relationships? i
no, we definitely don't... really have those back home.
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And you know, in a way...it does sound as if you've already made up your mind about him. As for poly relationships- that's where you have more then one romantic partner. No one is above the other person, and it's all about being open and honest with one another.
If she comes here, you'll have to be upfront and have a discussion with the three of you. No one is being left out, and even if you're in a relationship with him, she doesn't have to be if she doesn't want to.
Makes sense?
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open and honest, huh? do those work out, or do they usually end badly?
of course i'd talk to her about everything if she showed up. that was never a question. i don't... keep secrets from her. or him, either, really.
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It works out better to be honest then to try to hide it. It has a way of blowing up in your face- not to mention you'll feel all twisted up from guilt.
So, knowing him, knowing her, do you want to take the risk?
Yes, there may be rejection, but at least this way it'd be polite and respectful.
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Maybe set it on fire after so he won't find it. Might be kind of awkward to try practicing the speech and you get caught mid-word or whatever.
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i think it'd be worse if i practiced a speech. he knows that isn't me. maybe a letter.
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All things considered? Don't prepare anything.
Just find a private moment where you can speak from the heart. And be prepared to clarify.
A lot.
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Especially if he tries to turn you down. He may not know about open relationships or poly relationships, so he may try to do the right thing.
Which is not always the right thing for everyone.
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even just reading 'if he tries to turn you down' makes my stomach knot up. we've already been avoiding each other since and i hate it.
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But...I will say. If you want him to stay?
Don't let him go. And breathe.
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[There's a pause as he sits back and tries to take stock of everything, rearrange his thoughts into some kind of order.]
thank you. for this.
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