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[thisisamazing]

Name: "anonymous" (Hiccup Haddock III)
Date: Feb. 2
Format: Text

some things recently came up and it has me thinking a lot. i'm not sure who else to ask this? the person i'd normally talk to is... part of it.

is it possible to have romantic feelings for more than one person at the same time? does that make you a bad person? i never had to consider it before because i thought everything would be simple, for me at least, but now it isn't so simple and i'm not

sure what to do

i don't want to hurt them

[ooc: Hiccup is posting anonymously but as this function isn't always reliable, let me know if you want him to anonfail! He's having some relationship troubles whoops.]

Comments

[zewu_jun]

The world does not obey the rules we assume. I would assume that in reality we simply did not know them yet.

As for love, that would be the hardest to tame.

Why do you think your love is hurt?

[thisisamazing]

not knowing the rules... that sounds about right. i always kind of feel like that, but especially here.

because he confessed that he had feelings for me and i was so blindsided that

well, the conversation didn't go well.

[zewu_jun]

Ah. Yes, I see your concern.

Do you have an answer now? You seem to be in doubt.

[thisisamazing]

not really, not yet. i don't want to make a hasty decision here. it's

it's important. they're important.

[zewu_jun]

Then you understand what the decision means and your loved ones are fortunate.

May I speak frankly with you?

[thisisamazing]

we'll see about that one.

yeah, of course. i don't just, want to hear what people think i want to hear.

[zewu_jun]

You may likely be unable to avoid hurting one or both of those you love. Even if you’re careful, suffering will probably come along with your choices, because they resist the normal flow of what people expect.

But when things truly matter, we suffer for what we love. Even if you were to hold back and try to be kind, to choose not to act, you might hurt them. If that fear is what stops you, then I’m afraid it is always a potential outcome no matter how long you think or plan to avoid it. Years won’t prepare you for the unknown. You ask for advice because you worry your decision is somehow unacceptable. If you know the answer, then does it matter if others think it is? There may be pain or there may not be. However... keeping back is not always safer.

[thisisamazing]

that's what i was afraid of.

i didn't think i knew the answer, but... maybe i did. do. you're right, this

this makes a lot of sense. my dad used to say that with love comes loss. that's... that's what you're saying, right? but it's still worth it to try?

[zewu_jun]

We can't predict the future or truly know the hearts of others, no matter how close we may be. You can only do what you feel is right. Others might not agree with that choice, but... It is not their choice.

And even if you remained silent, you might still lose them. Saying nothing may also become a regret.

[thisisamazing]

you're right. i think i'd regret not saying anything. i don't know what's right and what's wrong in a situation like this, but

i shouldn't let myself regret something so major

[zewu_jun]

You should not.

Perhaps what is right or wrong depends on the outcome itself. If I may be bold in saying so, the difference may depend on you.

But those are merely one stranger's drifting thoughts.

[thisisamazing]

depends on the outcome, huh. so just hope for the best?

they're appreciated. i needed another perspective.

[zewu_jun]

Mm... Hope may be the seed of that outcome. It won't replace choice, but if you tend to it properly, it is more likely to produce something you want.

You seem honest and kind. I doubt ill will befall you for following that kind of heart.

[thisisamazing]

i wish i could have that kind of faith. but you have a point.

i think i'm going to talk to him.

[zewu_jun]

Then I wish you well.
At the very least, it will allow you to clear the air between you.

Good luck.